You can read everything ever written about narcissism and still be trapped by what your body learned.
Kate did exactly that.
She's at her kitchen table in Idaho. It's past midnight. She's been awake for hours — again — because she needs four different sleeping aids just to get two hours of sleep. She's been studying narcissism for months. Bought every book on Amazon. Watched every YouTube video she could find. Took notes. Underlined the important parts. She thought if she could just understand it well enough, she could finally get free of it.
Instead she developed high blood pressure. Chronic UTIs. She was losing her hair.
She said: "I literally live in hell."
That's what happens when you try to solve a survival program with information. Your brain already knows what's happening. That's not the problem. The problem is what your nervous system does when the trigger hits. And no amount of reading stops that.
You're not dealing with a logic problem. You're dealing with a program that was installed when they were the authority and you were the dependent. That program says: if they're upset, I'm in danger. If I say no, I'll lose love. If I don't explain myself perfectly, I'll be punished.
And when that program runs, you don't choose your response. Your body does.
You keep doing it. You don't know why. It's not you. It's the program. Work with Robert Gene. Change the program. The pattern stops.
I've worked with thousands of people running this exact program. It changes fast when you stop fighting the person and start changing what your nervous system is obeying.