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FOUNDATIONAL QUESTIONS & LEVEL 3 UNDERSTANDINGS:
KEY: Foundational Principle of eutaptics® - Growth is to go beyond the fear of the unknown, to go beyond rejection, and to accept and integrate truths into your life.
eutaptics® is based on the principle of absolute truth, meaning that it is absolutely true regardless of individual beliefs. You don’t have to believe in anything new to agree with the concepts taught. It transcends economic, ethnic, religious, and gender boundaries and beliefs.
The Stage is Set
Before you were born, the stage was set. An environment existed with cultural and familial dynamics.
- “They” (your caregivers) already had their problems, beliefs, skills, and talents before you arrived.
- Birth. You were born into the world and its environment!
- “They” affected, influenced, and taught you to the best of their ability based on what they knew at the time.
- From your experiences, you developed your own beliefs, coping skills, and perceptions.
- From experiences, you developed a self-identity within (“I am”).
- From this identity, you began to operate and survive within the world.
- Therefore, all problems are metaphoric expressions built from inner references, whether consciously remembered or not.
- At some point, the big question is asked, “WHY do I have problems?” There are many different doctrines to explain why.
The cause of all problems starts at birth.
From the moment we are born, we are exposed to our environment (everything outside our self), and we begin to experience the world. Those experiences are recorded in our minds as memories.
As a child, the people in our world affect and impact us. Our problems are the product of what we’ve learned. These experiences start to create our unique model of the world, or as Robert Anton Wilson calls it, “a reality tunnel.”
This recorded information gives us a point of view and a way to operate within the world. It holds all the emotional patterns, the how-to’s and beliefs, which build our perceptions of self and how to interact with our world. This is how our “reality tunnel” is built.
Because our perception originates from our memories and experiences, it follows that if we change the way we hold our memories, this will change our perception, and we will view the world differently as a result. This is the primary aim of eutaptics®.
KEY: Universal Pattern of Creation/Belief - This one single pattern or process is what the unconscious mind uses on a daily basis to manifest everything you currently have. It is a manifesting process that works in the background of our mind. It manifests illnesses, good health, fears, abundance and poverty, failures, and successes. It is no accident you are reading this because it has done its job to put you in the seminar. There is a pattern or process you go through, mentally and physically, to bring about the manifestation. There is a conscious interaction and an unconscious radar, working on your behalf.
These are the mechanics behind the Law of Attraction. You can see this work with the placebo and nocebo effect. It works in the background of your mind - with or without your conscious involvement. It is the foundation to all your beliefs and disbeliefs. Once you’ve discovered how it works, you can then follow the steps to manually manifest anything.
Your unconscious is always operating in the background (and in the foreground) of your mind. Both conscious and unconscious thoughts are a continuous request for creation in your life. When you hold images in your mind, you make them real inside; and this works with the world to make it so. Remember, what you hold inside is the filter through which you perceive the world. This is true for both positive and negative situations: when you practice negative memories or future worries, your mind perceives your experience through that filter. When you practice positive memories or future success, your mind perceives through that filter.
It goes back to “What is a belief?” Proofs and emotional resources felt to be real. So, we are constantly looking for PROOFS to what we believe to be true. Our minds naturally seek to “prove” what we believe as true and will find ways to be right, despite evidence to the contrary.
Your mind uses the following process to generate your results beyond consciousness:
- The unconscious mind will create a desired outcome, image or an imprint.
- Consciously we notice it
- We respond to it as if it were true
- Then we start physically doing what supports the imprint
- And so, we are affirming its truth - in many ways, and frequently
- Evidence is building every day of its existence
- We are living and acting as if it were true, and we manifest the reality of the imprint held in the mind.
Important Facts About the Universal Pattern of Creation/Belief:
- Beliefs are based on “evidence” from past experiences (in the form of memories) that is accompanied by feelings. It is the feeling that makes the belief seem true.
- Our perception is determined by those beliefs. The feeling that makes the belief seem true (whether it really is true or not) creates a filter for what we experience and notice in the world and in ourselves – and how we experience it.
- The Universal Pattern of Creation is the process through which we create what we believe: The belief (based on evidence held in the subconscious and accompanied by feelings) affects our perception – which determines our actions and decisions – which result in experiences that affirm that belief.
KEY: The Ultimate Forgiveness - Looking at the negative past, judging and condemning what we did, is really punishing ourselves. When we rehearse this over and over, we are only torturing ourselves. But the goal isn’t to ignore all these feelings. It is to release and let them go, to forgive ourselves and others and move forward in life.
Forgiveness is the most powerful aspect of transformation. Release what happened back then, and you will change your life. Forgiveness is to choose to be compassionate with yourself, to not hold things against yourself any longer. True forgiveness is self-forgiveness.
There is a common misconception about forgiveness that if we forgive “them” they get away with what they did. In reality, by holding on to your grievance, you are the one tormented, not them. They do not feel the terrible way that you feel inside yourself about them. Only you feel that. There is an old adage that says, “Resentment (which is un-forgiveness) is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
There is also the thought of “I don’t want to be a robot and not feel all my emotions.” However, you are being a robot when you keep responding unconsciously out of resentment, because you keep responding the same way each time. It is controlling you.
Forgive yourself and those who hurt you.
KEY: How Some Types of Memories Change Faster Than Others
There are two different types of memories that we will work with:
- First type experiences the problem once and never looks at it again; runs away and avoids it.
- Second type identifies with, rehearses and replays the problem over and over again: speaks with many people about the problem, joins the groups and have been going to therapy, retelling the story over and over again. They create inside their minds a gigantic “neuronet highways.”
KEY: What Is the Strongest Driving Force in the Universe? - The most powerful force that drives you is PAIN or what you don’t want.
The structure exists within you with inner proofs to back it up. This intensity of what you do not want then motivates, identifies, and the emotions/physical expressions move you. Ironically, it’s your unconscious mind/Intelligent Idiot trying to keep you in alignment with its resources. It also tries to keep you in harmony with the belief system of what you claim consciously you do not want. LOVE is behind all the things in your life. Even the things you do not consciously want. You are what you are carrying!
The more you do not want something in your life, the more you will re-experience it. The only way to get rid of these painful is to release the intensity of them from your thoughts by rewriting them. Since you are what you do not want because you are carrying it, as you rewrite them into something positive then you’re becoming what you do want, which is more beneficial. Now you are creating your life by intention instead of by default.
So there are two things that people are motivated by:
- Moving away from pain (physical or emotional) – AVOIDANCE
- Moving towards something more pleasant – DESIRE
The Power of What You Don’t Want
My clients want to change. They say: “I’ve had enough. I’m tired of all the garbage.” I ask, “What do you want?” Without realizing they are doing it, they give me a detailed list of everything they don’twant. I ask again, “What do you want?” They tell me more of what they don’t want. I ask again, “What do you want?” They look at me strangely.
I have discovered that what people don’t want is so powerful, that they continue to produce it. Many people become experts at what they don’t want and spend their lives getting what they don’t want. Their waking consciousness is focused on what they don’t want.
KEY: Primary Imprint - An imprint is a code of action. It gives us a value system, it gives us parameters for who we are, and what to do in any given situation. Imprints can be positive or negative.
A primary imprint is the imprint that has the strongest drivers/resources – based on experiences. It contains the emotional resources, all the how-tos, and what-to-dos encoded within it. It is the singular driving force to act from, based on what you have experienced, internalized and created within yourself.
Imprints are changeable. They are not stuck or permanent. They are used by the mind as a quick reference to get the code of action for how to act and perform.
Important Facts About the Imprints:
- An imprint has the code of action at any given moment. It is an instant snap shot of what, how and who we are. It is also known as memory, trigger, or trance state.
- A Primary Imprint is what the mind uses at any given moment to respond to external stimulus.
- Imprints can be changed, and changing the imprints changes how we respond.
KEY: Primary Principle - The primary principle is the mind’s process of accessing and using a primary imprint to determine how to respond to circumstances and situations in life.
The imprint is a snapshot, containing belief systems and resources, and gives immediate data showing:
- How to do a given behavior or pattern
- What to do
- Who you are in the world
- How to respond and react
For example: You have the belief: “I hate liver.” As far asyou know,you just hate liver. However, if you were to find the original imprint for hating liver, it may be: “When I was five, I got a piece of liver stuck in my throat. I got sick and threw up! It was awful. I’ll never eat liver again. It makes me sick. I hate it.”
The belief “I hate liver” is based on an imprint that was encoded from the perspective of a five-year-old. The subconscious linked the liver with the negative experience of throwing up. The way in which the subconscious organizes information meant that liver equals a negative experience. This means that whenever the idea of liver is encountered, the Primary Principal (the subconscious referring to the Primary Imprint on liver) leads the subconscious to trigger your organs to produce chemicals that cause the feelings of revulsion – to keep you from the “danger” of the negative experience it has linked to liver.
Important Facts About the Primary Principle:
- The Primary Principle is the act of the subconscious referring to the imprints that provide the information on who you are, how the world works, and what behaviors are appropriate in any given moment.
- The Primary Principle is always in action. The subconscious is constantly referring to the imprints it currently holds.
KEY: Perception - Perception is key to how we see the world and how we are to perform within it. It is the mind’s way of giving meaning to everything in life. It has the magic combination of how to act and to live. If we change perception, by transforming memories (by actually rewriting them), then everything changes. The tapping process addresses internal representations (how you hold a memory, how you represent everything) and this builds your belief about yourself.
When you can change your BELIEF about yourself; what you PRESUME to be true, about you and about them, you change your world. And we have established that our world is solely PERCEPTION, a filter that our experience goes through, based on our Tunnel Reality. This tunnel then represents our History.
However, you cannot change HISTORY. It’s over. You can’t even FIND your past, except when you recreate it in your mind – and that really is a distorted form of it, based on the storyteller.
Our history is only as good as the storyteller. For example, the history of a country is determined by who is telling it. Your history is just yours. Someone else may have the same experience and yet it is different. So changing how you represent the history will totally change your perception of the world and your current reality. God knows you need something to change. To do this you must change how you hold it, by letting go of the emotions, hurts, expressions, actions, and turn it into something good. We are who we are not because of the past, but rather by how we represent it.
KEY: Fractionation and De-Fractionation
Fractionation is the hypnotic process of deepening the level of a trance. This is done by associating to the trance state, then breaking it, then going back in again. Each time this pattern is repeated, you will go deeper into the trance. This is also how problems get bigger. The more rehearsing we do, the more we strengthen those undesirable resources and the deeper our trance states become.
De-fractionation is a process used to break trance states and loosen the hold problems have on our lives. The act of tapping is, itself, a trance breaker. By focusing on the tapping sensation, you are disrupting the undesirable mind-body-problem connection. By going to a happy memory at the end of the tapping round, you are introducing and strengthening desirable resources.
De-Fractionation is an advanced pattern interrupt, utilizing the bad-good collapse with a desired outcome in mind. These are all ways of de-fractionating:
- Tapping (soft, hard, rubbing, stroking, sliding, counting, etc.)
- Fake laughter
- Recalling and re-experiencing happy memories
- Physical activities such as jumping jacks, humming, dancing, or marching in place
Note that you are not really going in and out of trance with de-fractionation. You are going from one trance (undesirable) to another (desirable). This is also how we live our lives…going from one trance state to another. The question becomes, “What trance do you want to live in?”
- Associate to the memory - this is the problem/trance state
- Tap – this begins the trance breaking process
- Peace anchor - come out of the trance by breaking your state with an interrupt
- Go back to the memory
- Tap and come out as above, noting change
- Associate to the memory again, noticing that it has started to change
- Tap and clean up residue
- Try to go back in
- You cannot feel bad, and the memory reference has changed
- Return to the memory and rewrite it how you wanted it to be
KEY: Dumping/Linking - Dumping/Linking is a great technique for addressing addictions. When a client wants to give up an addiction, the first thing that we need to do is take the love out of it. We dump all the negativity, pain, hurt, nastiness, death, suffering, stink, mess, etc. onto the perceived good part of the addiction.
It is essentially putting the bad feelings in the places that should be bad by creating conscious or unconscious repulsion.
For example, you say, “What is something you find disgusting?” Use your sensory acuity to evaluate their response. Be sure it is truly disgusting to them.
Next direct them to imagine putting that thing in their mouth, again evaluating their response. Once they are clearly repulsed, use their answer to ‘dump’ on the addiction (if it’s consumption based). The intonation of the voice that you use with it is also important. The more repulsed they are, the more abiding the results. If you can get them to gagging, GREAT!
It's also important to take the good feeling (that they get with using drugs for example) and move it to a beneficial action that they would prefer to do. In this way, dumping can be used to build positive behaviors.
KEY: The Happy Journal - The Happy Journal is used as part of the Peace Process. It becomes a positive resource for you to refer to when you want to feel good for no reason at all. If you practice feeling good, you will get more of feeling good.
By clearing out the emotional issues, you are on the path to creating a better life. One step is to start tapping, the other is to start practicing feeling good.
The Happy Journal consists of 5 parts:
1. Positive emotional states – happy memories, happy future paced memories, peaceful places in nature you love, etc. AND – Your NEW Flipped memories! Be sure to add your new rewritten memories into your Happy Journal!
2. Positive affirmations - positive affirmations from any source you appreciate. You can use Louise Hay’s Heal Your Body, and write down the affirmation that corresponds to any malady you have experienced
3. Gratitude list – list of what you're grateful for and what you appreciate
4. Goals and dreams – what you would like to have (relationship, financial, spiritual, health/fitness, career, etc.), then create an action plan
5. G.E.M.S. – simply little “jewels” that resonate with you: quotes, pictures, books, your own ideas and musings, how-to’s
KEY: Have them show you thier happy journal. You should be able to see they have been working on it.
LEVEL 3 TECHNIQUES:
KEY: ART of Change® Questions - The following questions, listed by category, will help you get specific information about that aspect of the P.I.P.S.
These are only ideas to help get you started. If you think of other questions, write them down and answer them! It’s all relevant information.
The Belief System
1. How do you know you have this (P.I.P.S.)?
2. What do you believe about this (P.I.P.S.)?
3. Why is this (P.I.P.S.) an issue for you?
4. What is the worst part about having this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. Why is it important to get rid of this (P.I.P.S.)?
6. What damage has this (P.I.P.S.) caused you and others in your life?
1. How did this (P.I.P.S.) start?
2. Have you ever experienced this before? If so, when?
3. Do you know anyone else who has this (P.I.P.S.)?
4. With whom do you normally have this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. What stories have you heard about others with this type of (P.I.P.S.)?
6. Is there a pattern of time with this (P.I.P.S.)? (4 yrs, 7 yrs, etc?)
7. What is the worst part about this (P.I.P.S.), and how bad will it get?
8. What triggers happen to make or start this (P.I.P.S.)?
9. When this (P.I.P.S.) began, what else was going on in your life at that time?
10. It’s gone! What made it come back?
The Inner Production
1. What happens inside you when you have this (P.I.P.S.)?
2. What things do you see, feel, hear, taste or smell inside when this (P.I.P.S.) occurs?
3. Where do you feel it, where does it move next, and what does it feel like?
4. What emotions do you feel about this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. What language are you using on yourself?
The Metaphoric Expression
1. If this (P.I.P.S.) was a person, who would it be?
2. If this (P.I.P.S.) had a voice, what would it say? Whose voice would it be?
3. If this (P.I.P.S.) had a message, what would it be?
4. If this (P.I.P.S.) had a size/color/shape, what would it be?
The Pay Off
1. What bad things will happen if this (P.I.P.S.) is gone?
2. What benefits do you experience when you have this (P.I.P.S.)?
3. What would be a good reason to keep this (P.I.P.S.)?
4. Who in my life supports me because of this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. Who would lose their role/job if this (P.I.P.S.) was gone?
6. Fill in the blank: “I like this (P.I.P.S.) because _______.”
(Ask multiple times, if you don't know, make it up!)
1. How would your life be if this (P.I.P.S.) was gone?
2. What would you be doing if this (P.I.P.S.) was completely gone?
3. What would you do, if this (P.I.P.S.) showed back up?
4. If you could wave a magic wand over this and have anything you wanted, what would it be like?
Once the structure is identified, you are ready to start addressing the memories and references used to produce the P.I.P.S.. You may notice that not all questions are relevant to each P.I.P.S., so be flexible. If questions not listed here surface, answer them.
The only wrong answers are the ones you ignore. You must be the detective and ask the questions to find the answers.
Of course, once you have your answers, you will begin to see many areas that need to be addressed further. You will also notice that the way you do one area of your life is the way you do many areas of your life.
Our beliefs and perceptions are the filters through which we see EVERYthing. If you’re wearing rose colored glasses, the world will be shades of rose, no matter where you look.
KEY: Tap it Down, Tap it Up - A great technique for addressing the concept, the idea, the belief, the metaphoric expression of something. You use it with certain beliefs like these: “I'm a loser, no one loves me, I'm guilty…”
For example, if someone feels that they are stupid you ask them: “From 0-100%, how stupid do you feel?” The answer is 100%. Then you tap it down, start with: “That stupid feeling, notice how it's stupid, notice inside you where it is that you can feel it. You got it?” Start tapping…
Then take them to the positive place and when they come back say it again… “I'm stupid. How true is that from 0-100%, where do you fit on the scale?” Keep tapping down until you get 0.
When you get down to 0, ask them: “What's the opposite of stupid?” They say: “Smart.” (You let them answer it.) Then ask: “From 0-100, how true is it, how smart are you?” And then you tap it up until it is 100% true. If they say 10% for example, you start tapping on them: “I release and let go of the other 90% and all that it represents.” And then go back and check it again. You can also encourage them to say it out loud: “I'm so smart, I'm 60% smart. Is that true?”
KEY: Cartoon Character - For those who are strongly auditory who have someone saying something in their mind. The most important thing is to change the meaning behind what was said. We do this by changing the auditory sub-modalities.
Practitioner tips: What are they saying to themselves. What are they hearing within themselves. Listen for: "I hear my mother say." or "This voice inside my head." Ask them in the intake, "Do you have a time when someone said something that hurt you or bothered you?"
1. Identifying and associating to what was said. We identify what was said by the person or inner critic. "Go inside and notice you are hearing it,. You hear it come from somewhere: up high, low, in the middle. Point to where it is." Identify how it's said (the tone of voice). You may choose to SUDS it at this point.
- Notice the location/direction they hear the sound/voice is coming from (could be in front, from the heart, from the throat, from far away,...). You are looking for auditory sub-modalities.
2. Recall a character that they've heard and they know. Say, "When you were a child or even now and you watch cartoons, is there a cartoon character that you know of that you are able to hear their voice when you think of them? Inside your mind you are hearing __(ex: Donald Duck)__, is that correct? Where do you hear it coming from? Point to where you hear it coming from."
- They will go inside and their mind will do a search. "I want you to listen to them speak and notice where it is you hear it (their voice) coming from." (Location of the tone of the cartoon character.) "Go focus in on what they sound like." (99.9999% of the time, it will be a different location from the original (negative) voice.) (Over here has a good voice and over there has a bad voice.)
3. Give Direction: "This is what we are going to do: "We are going to take this (cartoon) voice and give it to ___(negatively voiced person)___ and now she is going to say exactly the same words but with the cartoon's voice." (client will laugh at this probably: All of the sudden, there is a collapse.) "Now can you really take them seriously? Do it again, listen to it with __(ex: Donald Duck)_'s voice and it doesn't bother you, does it?" Alright, good. Deep breath, blow it out, say peace.
- This technique is a bad-good collapse.
4. Variation: Also an email will work. When you read it, you actually hear the other person saying it.
KEY: Confuse the Conscious Mind - Sometimes, your clients may resist or avoid making changes by keeping their conscious mind focused on their problem. By preoccupying the conscious mind while tapping, you can bypass this response.
Here are some examples of how to do this: While tapping rounds, have the client count backwards from 100 by 4 as you continue tapping and saying your regular callouts. You can ask them riddles between rounds and start tapping as soon as they begin contemplating the answer. You can ask them to spell words as you tap. Or you can ask questions out of context from the session, such as, “What was your first car?”
Saying words of the Quick Tap really fast or asking the Silly Question creates confusion, too. The fart app and different props may also be used to interrupt the pattern. The whole purpose is to mess up their conscious thinking. It confuses and eliminates their ability to the point that they can’t find it anymore.
Basically, the possibilities are limited only by your creativity! Have fun. Make them laugh. Keep their minds busy while you do your work.
KEY: Give it Back to Them Process - As you know, all information that comes from a client is about them and is the key to making deep changes. There are three levels of giving it back to them we can use to trigger a reaction, which will bring the unconscious response to conscious awareness.
- Give it back to them simple.
They say: “I am just an idiot.” You respond by feeding their own words back to them: “You’re just an idiot, that idiot feeling.”
- Give it back to them with dynamite.
They say: “I am just an idiot.” You respond by amplifying their words: “You’re the biggest idiot I’ve ever met in my entire life.”
- Give it back to them in the opposite way.
They say: “I am just an idiot.” You respond with the exact opposite: “You are so smart.”
By doing this, they may get angry, frustrated, or even sad. This is what you want! You're amping it up and hitting the jackpot, which is where the emotions are. Remember – we are all our own worst judge and jury. We criticize ourselves more harshly than anyone else ever could without thinking twice about it. When someone else says those same words to us, however…watch out!
KEY: Interrupt the Focus - When they're trying to find the memory, you start tapping before they can find it. That's messing up the record, it creates a confusion with it.
KEY: No Content - When a client has an issue they do not want to share the details of, you can use this technique to re-imprint the memory just as effectively as if they gave you information. It is most effective if they have to have a specific memory and can associate to it. They just need to know how they know it bothers them.
Example: “Is there anything you've never told anyone (you’ve done/was done to you/you witnessed) …you can still keep it a secret if you wish.”
“I want you to think about that memory. See what you saw, hear what you heard and feel what you felt. Notice how you know it bothers you. How strong is it?” Get a SUDS rating.
Tap according to protocol, as you do on any other problem, substituting phrases such as “Those memories, those sensations, those words, the tone, the sensations in my body, what I witnessed, what I experienced, it's safe to let it go.” Use whatever is appropriate for the situation.
You can do all of this without knowing any content.
This is one of the best ways to work with family members.
At the end of the process you can also say to them: “It's safe now for you to tell me. Is there any resistance?” Resistance to sharing may be an indicator that the issue is not completely cleared. They don't have to tell you, but you're cleaning up whatever is still there.
Or you can have them talk about it out loud in their mind, and if there is anything that still bothers tell them to just nod their head. Then you tap on it. Go back and check it again.
Remember! A client is NEVER required to tell you details if they do not want to. Always respect their privacy.
KEY: Phantom Tapping Technique - This technique is used when clients say they know there's a problem, but they don’t know where it comes from. There is a feeling or a knowing. We don't know what it represents, but the unconscious knows. By changing the "place inside you that knows what this problem means," the subconscious changes all the references without us having to know what they are.
This process can bring up latent memories, which can then be tapped out, but part of the magic is that the memories don’t actually have to surface, as the client can release and let go of them all simply by releasing the “knowing” of the problem; by releasing all unconscious resources the whole structure collapses.
You tap on how you know: location, how big, sensations of "that place inside you that knows what this problem mean." Tap until the location and sensations are gone. Then go to a happy feeling/sensation and put that new feeling in it's place. We have to redecorate those bad spots, they become good spots when we're done – we use their stuff in a positive way. It's good to use their resources instead of making up/imagining new ones.
- Have them notice this place, spot, feeling, location
- Tapping round
- Check again and keep doing rounds until the feelings/sensation/place inside is neutral.
- Go put a happy feeling in the place of that "knowing." Now when they go to that place inside them, it has positive resources.
- ex: “Remember a really good memory, step into the best memory of your life and notice inside the location of this good feeling. Notice in your body, in your mind, wherever it is. Now move this feeling to the spot that used to be there and have a new spot of good feelings. Just move it there. Take a deep breath and Peace.”
KEY: Rewind the Story
- Have them watch the movie (of what happened) in their mind all way through to the end.
- Ask: “Have you ever been watching TV and while you're watching it someone hits the rewind button on the VCR and everything goes backwards naturally?” (We're setting up the brain to play movie backwards naturally.)
- “Now I want you to go back to the end of the movie, hit the rewind button and watch it go backwards naturally. When you get back to the beginning nod your head.”
- “One more time, go back to the end, rewind button, naturally.”
- “Do you have a song or something that makes you feel good when you listen to it? I want you to have it playing on the radio. Listen to that song, enjoy it. While you're enjoying the song hit the rewind button and watch the movie go backwards again.
- "Now as you push the play button on this movie discover how it's changed.”
KEY: Shelving Technique - If a client has many memories along the same line (e.g. a repeating anger experience) you can use this technique – a condensed version of The Super Power Tap.
The language is very important. It depends on the internal processing of the individual.
- “Step into the memory, feel, see and be as if you're there, notice the emotions and feelings, notice how strong it is.” (We do the SUDS rating often.) “I want you to take this memory and put it on a shelf in front of you.” (The presumed truth is that there is a shelf in front of them. You must not say: “In your mind there is a shelf”, because they will start looking for it, we want to put our own shelf in front of them).
- “Then go to the second memory, step into it, feel it and be in it, notice how strong it is. Set it on the shelf right next to the first memory.”
- Do the same with all the other memories, usually three to five memories and you say: “Let these five represent all others.”
- When you are done with the memories, say: “I want you to look at all of them and know what it represents, feel all those feelings, you got it?”
- Ask the Silly Question
- Addressing all memories, use The Quick Tap + include their words
- When you are finished with tapping say to them: “Now what I would like you to do is to go back and look at them on the shelf, and see how emotionally intense they are.” We use SUDS units all the time until when looking at the shelf from the distance it's a zero. Tap to let it go.
- Then you have them step into first memory and check if there are any feelings or emotions left. What you say is: “I want you to pull that memory down and step into it, how strong is it?” – tap again with parts and pieces;
- Instruct them to put it back on the shelf, take the next memory and do the same. Make sure you reimprint each memory and then put it back up and pull another one down. (Often times the memory disappears or it'll flip by itself.)
- At the end, you can say: “In your mind, put your hands on either side of the shelf, and scrunch them together as they mix and match. You’re going to stop at one really good memory and feeling, and I want you to step into that and just feel good.” You can also add: “Scrunch them all together and you have really good wisdom, really good truth, or something that's going to change your life.”
There are different variations of this technique, you can also see all these memories on the shelf and take a deep breath and blow them all down, and when you take another deep breath they pop up and they're all totally different and new, something you’ve always wanted.
KEY: Stacking Technique - When to use this: You are going to address one memory or one basic problem but get added benefits of other memories dissipating.
- Associate:You are going to address one memory or one basic problem. Associate to that problem. and then start stacking many other problems/memories onto the original memory you are working on. Dump the extra memories on top of it. Say: “So your father did _______, when you were sick in bed, what that person said to you,....” And then we hit them all at one time (we don’t go to the details of the stacked memories), we're just using the titles.
- Direct: Then we instruct the unconscious mind "let these memories represent all others." It's very important how you set up the mind to do the work for you.
- Tapping: Now do the tapping round.
- Check the first problem and do more rounds. This way the intensity of the stacked memories decrease while only specifically working on the first memory. The stacked memories are only mentioned in a general nature but still get to experience the decrease in intensity. (Saves you--the practitioner-- time.)
- You are still focusing on the first memory details during the tapping. You are adding the stacked memory names still only when you are aiming.
KEY: Bridging Technique - This technique is similar to stacking, but a little bit more advanced. For example, when you have three issues and you can see a common theme, the same pattern, you will bridge them together and work on them in one process. You're making connections and then hit them all at one time as you're working through the session.
First do the intake. They tell you what problems they have, i.e. with their boss and they also have emotional issues with their dad and their ex-husband. So you know that "my boss" is the prevailing problem that you want to address, but you also know that they have past experiences with dad and you have the structure of their life and can see exactly the same structure with their ex-husband. So you're working with three different memories, three different resources, but the same basic character in the place of all experiences.
While tapping, you bridge all these memories together by saying; "and just like your father said, and just like your ex-husband did, too...." So it's the same thing. You're bridging all these together and making connections. Then, you're going to collapse them all together at one time.
As practitioners we look for patterns, structures, things that our clients are projecting and mirroring. When you start working with people, you will begin to see their inner mental structures and will recognize connections and parallels.
KEY: Super Power Tap - It is the most content rich process. We do a really good intake, collect memories and stack things together.
Inside each memory elicit what they know, that makes it true. Ask: “How do you know you have this problem?” You want to know what they saw, heard, felt – sensations, kinesthetic, auditory, visual, tastes, smells, beliefs, attitudes – get a good list, a lot of details – submodalities. Follow with The A.R.T. of Change, get their structure and then start tapping.
- List the emotions associated to each memory;
- Go to each memory (“In this memory you're feeling these emotions, the sensations in your body, the tastes, the looks,… you got it?” – and do the same with the other memories, you build), put all the memories in front of them;
- Amp it up, association;
- Silly Question;
- The Quick Tap + add the words and sensations they gave for the memories – their own feelings, emotions, tastes, looks, whatever you have on the list, “and everything else”;
- “Deep breath, blow it all out and Peace”;
- Follow with the happy memories, amplify good feelings;
- Go back and CHECK. Say: “Many things have already changed, you may notice a little bit that isn't changed, and let your mind notice what that is.” You can list a memory – “Whatever is left there, you got it?” – and then all other memories. And then you hit it again.
- Another way of checking it: “Tell me about memory 1, memory 2, memory 3, etc.” (Often times they have problems remembering what they were!)
KEY: Autonomic Zap - The Autonomic Zap process is an amazing process once you find the defract that creates a big laugher or strong feeling. Once you find it you will then use the word or state to also zap the other memories.
KEY: Spinning the Feeling - This is a good technique to heighten peace and good feelings:
- Tell them to identify a positive memory.
- Say: “I want you to notice where you feel the good feelings, notice what it feels like.
- Notice it's spinning
- Notice which way it spins. If you don't know, just guess. You’re always right.
- Notice that is spins faster and faster and bigger and bigger
- Now send this feeling to someone who needs it or to themselves in a past memory.
As you're doing this technique you speak as if it's occurring now.
We also want to double-check on everything we do, so we may go back and see how it's changed: “Now go back to the old memory that used to bother you and see how you see it now. Don't forget about the good feeling.”
You can also just have them sit in the feeling to really anchor it in every time they go to the good memory.
KEY: 6 Basic Ways of Re-imprinting Memories - Actively changing memories to make them positive is a process known as re-imprinting, and it is the main goal of all the work you do on yourself. Although there are many ways of re-imprinting, here are the basic six:
- Spontaneous Re-imprint: “Flipping” the memory as you tap, the memory will naturally begin to become positive (TOTEMS, SUDS, Happy Memory)
- Address the action: tap on any actions in the memory (hitting, kissing, etc)
- Trading places: tap on the P.I.P.S. from the perspective of others in the memory, e.g., “You are your mother, your mother is looking at you, what does she feel about you?”
- Expressions Technique: tap on your own and others’ expressions until there are all smiles
- Modalities Tapping: tap on the minute details of a memory: color, pictures, sounds, smells, sensations, etc.
- Bring in new resources:
- Borrowing good feelings from other memories
- Clown’s nose, cartoon character, turn on light
- Have the adult you (wiser, stronger,) step into the memory to help.
- Integration Technique: to integrate with yourself today with our younger selfs as well with others that have hurt us or affected us from the past. You will do this after you have cleaned them up.
1. Spontaneous Re-imprint
The mere act of tapping on your memory by addressing how you hold and represent the memory internally the mind will naturally (spontaneously) re-imprint itself by using it’s inner resources all by itself, going from sad to happy.
2. Tapping on the Actions
You can tap on the action of the memory and by doing so the memory could re-imprint itself. You would tap on the hitting and when done they are hugging. You can tap on the bad words said and when done they are saying nice things.
3. Trading Places
Trading Places is the process of imagining you are another person in your memory and seeing the scene from his/her perspective, feeling their feelings and beliefs. It can be used either when the expressions are not changing or to check different aspects of the problem.
Often, when you trade places, new resources will emerge. This gives you the opportunity to be thorough in your tapping. This technique also works well in Parts and Pieces.
1. Imagine you’re another person in your memory. See it from their eyes
2. Now you are them, looking at you
3. Notice how you feel as that other person. What do you see? How do you feel?
4. Tap on all the references from that person’s perspective until it’s good
5. Repeat this process for others that may be in the memory
The Expressions Technique is the process of tapping on the expressions of the people in your memories. It is an effective way of finding and clearing less obvious aspects of a memory.
How to do it:
- Think about another person in your memory
- Notice the expression on his/her face (e.g., sadness). If you don’t know what it is, make it up and go with the first thing that comes to mind
- Tap on the expression (e.g., expression in the eyes), how you know that’s what it is, and everything you’ve made it mean
- Checking it after each round, continue tapping on the expression as it changes until it has turned into a smile. It will likely shift incrementally from sadness to a smile
- Repeat this process for every person in your memory who is not smiling, including yourself
- If the face disappears, it could be resistance. Pretend you know what the expression is and tap on that along with any resistance
Since everyone inside of you is you, you are changing your perception of yourself by addressing the expressions of everyone in your memories. As you clean these up, you are changing yourself and your perceptions and will experience life in a better way.
Modalities tapping is the process of tapping on the modalities and sub-modalities of a memory: colors, sensations, distance, pressure, weight, sounds, smells, etc. This combines well with Parts and Pieces.
6. New Resources
After you have been tapping and clearing the emotional issues of memories then it is easy to start re-imprinting them by using other resources and using other processes.
KEY: Safe Approach to Big Issues (SABI) - Safe Approach to Big Issues (SABI) is a process used when you have a P.I.P.S. that is overwhelming, especially fears and phobias. It is a way to work on an issue from a detached point of view and slowly associate to it as you clear the negative reactions.
1) Clean the mind, working on how you internalize the memories and tap using the six basic ways of re-imprinting.
a) This means tap until the memories are flipped into a desired outcome.
2) Slowly introduce the idea that the “problem” is about to happen physically in reality. Make it up as if it were happening now.
a) Tap and clean up anything that arises
3) Pretend as if the problem is now in your physical reality
a) You are still doing it all in your mind
b) Tap and clean up anything that arises
4) Address the physical manifestation of the problem from a distance
a) Tap and clean up anything that arises
5) Show a physical manifestation of the “problem”
a) Be sure to keep this physical something far away
b) Tap and clean up anything that arises
c) Use this procedure if applicable (i.e. a rubber spider)
6) Bring physical manifestation of the problem close to you
a) Keep tapping until you can bring the physical object close and can hold it/touch it/face it/etc.
b) Some examples include a spider or snake in a box, or an ex-partner walking into the room.
KEY: Deca-Trauma Process (D.T.P.) - The Deca-Trauma Process (DTP) is a specific protocol used to address trauma in a safe and controlled manner, as outlined below. You can use any or all five (5) techniques mentioned, as applicable. The order of techniques used does not matter. Again, this technique is recommended for use ONLY by qualified and approved practitioners, but can be used on yourself in an emergency to pull yourself out of a bad state.
1) Push it Away
a) If you are IN your memory, seeing it through your eyes, step out of it, and see it in front of you
b) Push it away, as far back as you need to until it no longer bothers you
c) Next, ask yourself how you would feel if you were in the memory, keeping in mind that you are not. THIS IS THE KEY!
d) From this perspective, tap on the emotions that come up while viewing the memory from far away
e) Keep your SUDS rating low
2) No Content
a) Without going into your own story or details about the content, simply notice uncomfortable emotions and/or feelings and tap on the “knowing” of having the memory
b) Keep your SUDS rating low
3) The Movie Technique
a) Imagine the memory on a movie screen in front of you
b) Watch it as a movie, unfolding before you
c) Tap on uncomfortable emotions.
d) Keep your SUDS rating low
4) Tell the Story
a) Narrate your memory as if it is was someone else’s story
b) Stop and tap out any uncomfortable emotions when you notice them
c) Start over from the beginning and keep going until you feel more uncomfortable emotions
d) Stop and tap these down
e) Continue steps B through D until you get to the end of the story without any uncomfortable emotions
f) Keep your SUDS rating low
5) Walk Through the Memory
a) Once it feels safe (emotions are down), step into your memory and begin walking though it as if you were there
b) Tap on any negative emotions as you move through the memory
c) Continue a and b until you get to the end of the story without any uncomfortable emotions
d) Keep your SUDS rating low
6) Retest/Parts and Pieces
a) Once you have SUDS 0, recheck the memory again, looking for any aspects that bother you.
b) Tap on all parts and pieces until the entire memory is a 0 or has flipped
7) Rewrite the Memory
a) Make it something or good; either make it up new or make how you wish it had happened back then
8) Replay the New Memory
a) Starting at the beginning, replay or tell the new story at least three time, fully associating to it each time
9) Happy Journal
a) Write the new happy memory in your Happy Journal, giving enough details so that it puts you back into the same state of mind as when you first experienced it
b) If you notice any resistance as you write, tap until it’s gone
10) Practice the New Memory
a) Rehearse the new memory several times a day over the next week
b) If you notice any resistance as you do this, tap until it’s gone
Remember to continuously check your SUDS rating, keeping it low and manageable. Follow the memory through until the end, and as you move through the process, tap on any emotional reactions until the trauma is cleaned up and the memory has flipped and you’ve re-written it into something good.
KEY: Push It Away Process - Use this with a very strong emotionally charged problem: “You are not there, you are right here with me.”– Tap them on the leg or shoulder to anchor now. “Don’t go there. What would you have felt, IF you were there?…But remember you’re not. You’re here with me.”
- Ask the client to identify a specific traumatic incident from their past. Example: "The time my father punched me when I was 12."
- Ask the client to GUESS what their emotional intensity would be on a 0-10 scale IF they were there. Instruct them NOT to actually imagine it (although some will close their eyes and do this anyway). This GUESS is a surprisingly useful estimate and it serves to minimize emotional pain.
- Have the client to give the feeling a name such as "this father-punch feeling" and then proceed with a round of tapping.
- After this round of tapping, ask them to GUESS again and to state their new number. Typically, they report noticeably smaller numbers.
- Perform more rounds of tapping and checking for their new numbers. A total of 3 or 4 rounds should bring just about everyone down to GUESSES of 0 to 3.
- Once it is down to acceptably low GUESSES, perform another round of tapping and after this round, ask them to vividly imagine the incident. Totally clean up all aspects using Parts and Pieces and other techniques.
KEY: Movie Technique - This is a way to check for any remaining aspects of a memory once you have tapped it down to a SUDS of zero. This is a dissociated perspective, or third person, and can sometimes cause different aspects of the memory to surface.
Instruct the client to play the memory from the beginning as if it were on movie screen in front of them and notice if anything comes up. “Start at the beginning. Watch it again and check if you are able to find anything that's left.” If they find anything, tap on them and repeat this technique until they have re-imprinted the original memory.
KEY: Tell the Story - Instruct the client to tell the "story" of the event or memory being worked on and to stop to tap each time they reach a point where the charge is 3 or above. Tell them that you will be watching and listening closely and may stop them if you suspect that there is a charge or that something is being glossed over.
Continue until the "story" can be told from start to finish with no charge.
KEY: Walk Through the Memory - This is an associated technique where you "put the cook in the kitchen" by asking the client to experience the memory as if they were there: actually be there, to see what they saw, hear what they heard and feel what they felt NOW.
It is a great check after Movie or Tell the Story technique to make sure that the charge is really gone or can be gone into directly if the event is not too traumatic.
KEY: Parts and Pieces - Parts and Pieces (Let it go, safe to let it go, I am okay to let it go.)refers to tapping on, and making changes to each part and piece of a memory. It’s based on the concept of Trees to the Forest. Use a variety of techniques to be sure you clear the entire memory. If you leave any negative bits behind, they will continue to have an impact on your life, even if you’re not aware of how.
You can use modalities, sub-modalities, expressions, and trading places to be sure you’ve cleared ALL negative aspects.
KEY: Rewriting the Memory - Rewriting the memory is the process of consciously making up a new story to replace the old story of your problem. You do this only once your SUDS rating is down to a 0 and it no longer bothers you. This facilitates changes in your life by giving your mind new resources to draw from.
You are in control of this process. Make it as good as you can. Strengthen this new story by making the feelings, sounds, sights, smells and even tastes within the memory as good as it could get.
As you rewrite your memories, you are also changing beliefs and perceptions. It is important to practice the new memories to reinforce the new resources you’ve created.
KEY: Surrogate Tapping (aka Remote/Prayer Tapping) This technique is good for times that you are not able to tap with someone for some reason.
Think about the person and his/her situation. Tap on all the ways you know it to be a problem. Tap on your own perceptions as well as theirs (as if you were them). Imagine what they are feeling and tap until you re-imprint it.
KEY: I’ve Already Dealt with It/Healed It - Often times people who are in the healing profession themselves and working hard on themselves will say that they have no charge to a memory and have already dealt with it.
- They will have no emotional charge to a memory but if it still plays the same, it’s still there.
- Using the expressions technique with them usually shows that it is still disruption there.
- Tap on all aspects until they are gone.
- Flip the memories so they don’t play the same.
KEY: Unconditional Positive Regard - Unconditional positive regard is the idea of having respect for your client’s model of the world regardless of your own opinion about it. People from all walks of life will come to you for help; diverse cultures, religions, beliefs, etc. You will not agree or resonate with every single client you work with. And sometimes, you may flat out disagree with their value system. This does not matter!
As a eutaptics® practitioner, we operate from the belief that your client’s story is just that: a story. Not real. And therefore, it is imperative that you set your judgments aside. Your job is to facilitate their change based on their desired outcomes, not to impose your agenda on their life. Your opinion is irrelevant. The minute you buy into a client’s story, you have just validated it as real for them as well and you will be much less effective as a practitioner!
If you find yourself feeling triggered, then it is your responsibility as a practitioner to clean that up. Tap on yourself as you tap on them. Get a session from a fellow practitioner. Do whatever it takes to deal with your issues without involving your client. Not only will you be a happier practitioner, you will also have greater success with your clients and they will be happier with you.
KEY: Don’t Be a Mind Reader…because you’re not telepathic and they have enough problems!
“Mind reading” is the act of making assumptions and assigning meaning about the thoughts, feelings, behavior, or intentions of other people without asking the appropriate questions to get accurate information. It is based on your own perceptions and belief systems.
When you do this, you are unable to hear what someone is really telling you and it builds a foundation for misunderstandings and misinterpretations. The mind reader usually believes his/her perceptions are accurate without realizing they are projecting.
KEY: Abreactions - An abreaction is the expression of emotional or physical responses, brought about by the release of emotions that have been repressed. There are positive and negative abreactions and they can happen before, during, or after a session.
They can range from: Burping, farting, yawning, crying, screaming, vomiting, sleeping like a baby, euphoric – or nightmares, diarrhea or dry retching and regressing back to the state at the time the memory was occurring – just to name a few.
As a major part of the eutaptics® process, practitioners need to be aware of this phenomenon, and be prepared to handle the situations as they arise. The practitioner needs to be confident and reassure the client that the abreaction is a normal part of the process. With eutaptics® we look to manifest and produce them and we have skills how to dissipate, release and transform them.
In some cases, current symptoms temporarily intensify or old symptoms temporarily reappear, which is often a positive sign that shifts are happening within the client. This phenomenon is also known as a “healing crisis.”
KEY: The Apex Problem - “Apexing,” as we call it in eutaptics®, is the phenomenon of forgetting a problem existed because there is no longer an emotional charge associated with that problem. It feels as if it never was a problem in the first place.
To help your clients see their progress (even if they apex), be sure to write down the SUDS rating for each of their memories at the beginning and ending of their session so that they have a reference for the work they did.
KEY: Helpful Callouts - Callouts are simply the phrases we say during tapping rounds.
Remember that you can keep it as simple as “Let it go” and still get profound changes. However, sometimes you may want to change it up. Here are some general phrases you may find helpful when tapping on your clients or yourself. It doesn’t matter which tapping point you say these on.
- Let it go, let it go
- I made itthrough
- I survivedthis
- You’renolongeryears old, you couldn't fit into the clothes even if you tried!
- S/He really did love me, the best way s/he knewhow
- The past is over; I choose to keep the wisdom
- Your mom/dad had their own problems; they did the bestthey could, based on their ownexperiences
- I know you’re changing and seeing thingsdifferently
- I'm keeping him close by loving/abusing myself the way he loved me
- I used to get it right when I was getting it wrong
- I let go of all regrets. It all worked out perfectly
- It's served its purpose; now it's no longeruseful
- I am so smart to know how to actstupid!
- I'm so clear about being confused!
- Thank you, Body, for letting me know what I need to letgo
- It's just a sensation I label as bad. It's coming up so I can let itgo
- It really wants to let me go, so I let itgo
- It's okay to let this fade away, dissolve anddisappear
- That was then and this isnow
- I'm doing this to myself
- They had their problems and I'm letting go of minetoday
- These are my feelings, I created them, and I can changethem
- It’s safe to let go of the fear and keep thewisdom
- The past is over and I am here now
- They have their problems but I am letting go ofmine
- They loved me the way someone loved them and I am improving mylove
- Feeling how I really feel is my first step in moving forward to how I want to feel withinme
- I need to stop beating myself up over mypast
- When I feel guilty for what happened, I’m choosing tobe emotionally trapped in mypast
- I choose to stop taking the emotionalpoisonof(fillin)
- I give myself permission to free myself from this emotionalprison
- I am the one who is choosing to punish myself in this way, this ismy experience
- When I am able to free myself, I am able to make betterchoices in my future
- I can recognize the ways I overreact in thesecircumstances
- Some things in my life I don’t control, but one thing I do controlis mychoice
- Because I have screwed up so much in the past I deserve tosuffer
- Feeling this way is my punishment tomyself
- I am worthy of not being stuck in mypast
- I am worthy of the freedom that comes with forgivingmyself
- I don’t have to constantly beat myself up when I makemistakes
- I'm just like him/her
- You are your parents “gift' to the world”
- Using their yard stick to measure me/yourself
- They couldn’t give me what they didn’thave
- They couldn’t teach me what they didn’t knowthemselves
- They loved me the way they loved themselves
- It’s safe to graduate from theirsystem
- Somebody did it tothem
- I'm so glad I’m here with (your name) now to let it allgo!
- It's not fear that's protecting me, but calm awareness/clear vigilance
- This happened, it’s over, I’m OK and I can let it all gonow
- I can make peace with all the places in my mind, body andlife where this is stored
- I put up the wall, I can just as easily take itdown
- Whatever it means, I don't need itanymore
- I forgive that little girl (or boy). She was hurt, she didn’t know how to let it go, but Ican
- Hear those words. Let go of those words. It’s safe to let go ofthose words. I’m going to miss those words. I’ve been entertaining myself with those words for a long time
- So she had it worse than you – how does it feel that she did a betterjob?
- It’s OK for me to beOK
- Those awful wonderful people
- I say I don’t want it, but I’m sure I/youdo
- Feel the love you have for your mom and send it toher
- It’s time to loveme
- It’s safe to heal this part ofme
- Release the bad stuff and keep the goodstuff.
- Eventhoughhe’s, I’m the onefeelingthe feelings. I release and let itgo
- I release and let it go at the unconscious level and all itsroads andavenues.
- I release thepast
- At that time I did the best Icould
- That was their problem and it isn't yours to carry, LET ITGO.
- I forgive my body, it was only following mymind
- I/they did the best I/they could with the knowledge and skillsthat I/they had at that time ... just as I'm doing the best I can with the knowledge and skills I have rightnow
KEY: Resources Needed for a Session - Before you do a session with anyone, there are a few things that you will need to prepare:
- Professional office space OR Computer/Smart Phone/Ipad/Headset
- Pad of paper or notebook
- Different colored pens and highlighter
- Comfortable chairs appropriate for session
- Client Agreement/Consent
- Client’s Peace List
- Intake Form
- A.R.T. OF CHANGE® Process Questions
- Quick Tap Flow Chart Scripts/Defrac List
- Appointment/Business Cards
- Insurance if applicable
- Inna Segal’s book “Secret Language of the Body”
- Louise Hay’s book “Heal Your Body”
KEY: The Basic Process for a Client Session
1) Initial contact with client, either by phone, video conference, or in person. Determine compatibility, establish rapport, schedule session if agreed, send or give client packet with instructions for session
2) Session: Meet and greet, build rapport, consent form, explain what will happen in the session
3) Have their Peace List ready
4) Ask them what their desired outcome is. What do you want to change today?
5) Complete the intake, using the A.R.T. of Change® Process. Listen carefully. Take notes. Get SUDS ratings as you interview
a) Listen for the metaphor phrases that precede a trance: “It’s kind of like… It’s just like... It’s sort of like... It’s as if…”
b) Take note of areas of resistance. Wherever you find the BIGGEST RESISTANCE, address it, CHANGE it
c) Look for and AIM at the biggest and worst life experiences first
6) Perform the Pre-Tap. This associates them to their problem and is imperative for the session!
7) Begin tapping using the Quick Tap
8) Tap the rounds, using TOTEMS
9) Break it down into smaller pieces and address the fine points using different techniques.
a) Always come back to the original event and clear it up
b) Check notes. What is left undone? Double-check everything
c) Address who they would be without the problem. Clean this up and make it positive
10) Re-write one memory, making it not just good, but amazing
11) Perform the Integration
12) Future Pace
13) Remind them how bad it was (0 – 10) when they arrived
14) Affirm how good it feels now – joy, and peace, etc.
15) Teach them how to tap. Explain that they will have the most success if they keep tapping on themselves
16) Teach them how to practice their rewritten memory
17) Make them a walking advertisement for you and for eutaptics®.
Basic steps we will work our clients through:
1) Clean up the mess
2) Educate them on how their mind works and show them where the controls are within themselves
3) Empower them by giving them the tools and skills to change themselves
4) Make raving fans, promoters and advertisers of your work
Educate them on how to advertise for you:
- Tell them, “Forget trying to explain what tapping is. It may confuse others, and it does not make sense to most people even though it works.”
- Share with others about how bad your problem or life was in the past with a story
- Share how good life is now after the session and give examples
- Instruct them to be patient and keep encouraging them because people need to hear more than once
- Give them a business card
Important to Keep in Mind:
1) Everything the client talks about is about them. Even if it’s a pet or a strange imagined alien in their dream, it’s all about them. Listen to them carefully to elicit their structure of thinking.
2) Every story the client brings to you is now a made up story. It may have been real at one point in time, but it is no longer happening right now
3) Keep your emotions in check and stay out of their P.I.P.S. Remain detached and avoid commiserating with them. It is your job to throw them a life preserver and you cannot pull them out if you jump in with them.
NOTE: This word is from the Glossary. We believe it is an important topic and want to make sure people are aware of it, and that it can happen.
KEY: Transference – Unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another. It could be the inappropriate repetition in the present of a relationship that was important in a person's childhood. Or it is the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object.
KEY: Pre-Talk: What You Say at the Start of a Session - One of the most important aspects of a sessionis what you say before you begin. This process sets the tone for the entire session: It not only frames the session, it also lets your client know what to expect. In addition, it is an excellent time to begin building conscious rapport and noticing mannerisms. By paying attention to your client at this stage, you can calibrate what their “normal” is, making it easier to recognize other states once the session begins.
To help you get started, we’ve provided a basic script for you to follow. It includes the key points that all pre-talks should have. Once you have this memorized, you can add your own personality to it. Over time, you will come up with what works best and flows naturally for you.
“Hi CLIENT NAME. Thank you for the opportunity to work with you today. Before we start, I’d like to go over what to expect during your session.
We’ll start with the intake. I will ask you questions about THE PROBLEM, how it has affected your life, and what outcome you'd like to achieve. Once we’re done with that, we’ll begin tapping.
I’ll ask you to focus your attention on the memories, feelings, and beliefs from the intake and we’ll begin tapping on these points (demonstrate). I will ask you to repeat, out loud, what I say as we tap.
While tapping, it is important to shift your focus away from your problem to the feeling of my (your) fingertips tapping. I will ask you questions throughout the tapping portion of the session to gauge your progress.
Some of the things I say may make you feel uncomfortable. This is expected. Remember that I am here to support you and facilitate your process. You are in control of this session so if you want to take a break, let me know.
Toward the end of the session, we will begin focusing on your desired outcome to leave you feeling good. I will show you how to tap on yourself between sessions and give you some self-work to help you continue making positive changes in your life. Is this ok with you? Do you have any questions?”
Key points to include in pre-talk:
- Thank your client
- Assuming you’ve had an initial conversation prior to the session, review your understanding of their problem and desired outcome
- Explain the intake
- Explain the tapping process, demonstrating the points and what it will look/feel like
- Explain how to aim and tap
- Explain that some things said may be uncomfortable
- Let them know they are in control and can ask you to stop any time
- Let them know you’re there to facilitate THEIR OWN PROCESS. Remember, YOU ARE NOT making the changes for them. They are making their own. You are merely a guide
- Explain the end of the session future pace and leaving them in a positive state
- Teach them how to tap on themselves
- Give them some assignments to keep the momentum going between sessions
- Give them the opportunity to ask questions or express concerns