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FOUNDATIONAL QUESTIONS & LEVEL 4 UNDERSTANDINGS:
The Belief System
1. How do you know you have this (P.I.P.S.)?
2. What do you believe about this (P.I.P.S.)?
3. Why is this (P.I.P.S.) an issue for you?
4. What is the worst part about having this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. Why is it important to get rid of this (P.I.P.S.)?
6. What damage has this (P.I.P.S.) caused you and others in your life?
1. How did this (P.I.P.S.) start?
2. Have you ever experienced this before? If so, when?
3. Do you know anyone else who has this (P.I.P.S.)?
4. With whom do you normally have this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. What stories have you heard about others with this type of (P.I.P.S.)?
6. Is there a pattern of time with this (P.I.P.S.)? (4 yrs, 7 yrs, etc?)
7. What is the worst part about this (P.I.P.S.), and how bad will it get?
8. What triggers happen to make or start this (P.I.P.S.)?
9. When this (P.I.P.S.) began, what else was going on in your life at that time?
10. It’s gone! What made it come back?
The Inner Production
1. What happens inside you when you have this (P.I.P.S.)?
2. What things do you see, feel, hear, taste or smell inside when this (P.I.P.S.) occurs?
3. What movies do you play in your mind about this (P.I.P.S.]?
4. Where do you feel it, where does it move next, and what does it feel like?
5. What emotions do you feel about this (P.I.P.S.)?
6. What language are you using on yourself?
The Metaphoric Expression
1. If this (P.I.P.S.) was a person, who would it be?
2. If this (P.I.P.S.) had a voice, what would it say? Whose voice would it be?
3. If this (P.I.P.S.) had a message, what would it be?
4. If this (P.I.P.S.) had a size/color/shape, what would it be?
The Pay Off
1. What bad things will happen if this (P.I.P.S.) is gone?
2. What benefits do you experience when you have this (P.I.P.S.)?
3. What would be a good reason to keep this (P.I.P.S.)?
4. Who in my life supports me because of this (P.I.P.S.)?
5. Who would lose their role/job if this (P.I.P.S.) was gone?
6. Fill in the blank: “I like this (P.I.P.S.) because _______.”
(Ask multiple times, if you don't know, make it up!)
1. How would your life be if this (P.I.P.S.) was gone?
2. What would you be doing if this (P.I.P.S.) was completely gone?
3. What would you do, if this (P.I.P.S.) showed back up?
4. If you could wave a magic wand over this and have anything you wanted, what would it be like?
It sets up the client’s unconscious mind for the work you’re about to do and let it know how you’re going to address the problem.
The Peace Anchor is the process of squeezing the wrist at the end of each tapping round and saying “Peace!” Doing this begins to interrupt the trance and creates peace.
At the end of each tapping round, have client take a deep breath, grab the wrist (or instruct client to grab their own wrist if online), blow it all away, and say the word “peace” while going to your happy memory.
Put them in the trance of the happy/good/peaceful memory: “Feel [the happy memory], notice it, take a deep breath, grab wrist, blow it all away, and say ‘Peace’.”
The most powerful part of the tapping process is aiming at the memory before beginning tapping. Aiming means consciously noticing how you know the memory bothers you. When working with clients, you must first associate them to how they know before doing the QuickTap.
When aiming, simply direct your client to notice how they know. When tapping begins, ask them to immediately shift focus from the memory to the feeling of your (or their) fingers tapping. This will begin the process of breaking the trance, which is all a memory is. Tapping is the simplest form of defractionation.
The T.O.T.E.M.S. Model - A mental strategy is typically organized into a basic feedback loop called a T.O.T.E. The letters T.O.T.E. stand for Test-Operate-Test-Exit. The T.O.T.E. concept maintains that all mental and behavioral programs revolve around having a fixed goal and variable means to achieve that goal.
This model indicates that, as we think, we set goals in our mind (consciously or unconsciously) and develop a TEST for when that FAQs goal has been achieved (either yes or no). If that goal is not achieved, we OPERATE to change something so we achieve said goal (take different actions). When our TEST criteria have been satisfied (goal achieved!), we EXIT (move on to the next goal).
Using the eutaptics® variation of T.O.T.E., known as T.O.T.E.M.S., you can address your problems and generate powerful changes in your life. The ‘M’ stands for Make it (the problem) come back, and the ‘S’ stands for Smiles, meaning to switch the memory into something good that makes you smile.
Following is the basic process for using TOTEMS, using the same principles from TOTE:
- TEST: Check your problem; get a SUDS rating
- OPERATE: Address the problem; tap on yourself, using the techniques you learn in this course
- TEST: Check it again with a SUDS rating. If it isn’t 0, then go back to OPERATE, tap until it’s 0
- EXAMINE: Once you tapped the feelings down check for a flip
- MAKE IT COME BACK: Do whatever you can to make the problem back in the same or other ways
- SMILES: Switch it so that memory is re-imprinted to a positive and you’re smiling
When working with clients, it’s important to know that all changes occur because of this one thing, regardless of which healing modality or therapy you use.
Feel Bad + Feel Good = Collapse the problem
Each time there is a collapse of bad feelings with good emotions, the shift happens. Tapping is a collapsing process. It releases bad feelings, when firing off two emotions at the same time.
You can have anchors (a look, smell, touch, word, joke…) and all of a sudden, they fire off a good or bad feeling. If they fire off at the same time the bad anchor disappears. When you take a good and a bad concept, as long as the good one is stronger, the bad will be erased by the good. Ramp up the good state when doing a bad-good collapse. You will destroy the programming.
To do this, ask: “How big is this feeling of no feeling? What is it made of? How do you know it’s there?”Work with whatever answer they give you. Remember, this is their reality and their mind. We work with what they give us – always. Tap on the representation they give you. Your goal is to gradually shift this representation, slowly letting them get in touch with the feelings from the event as the representation shifts and changes. People who say that they cannot feel feelings are often times big feelers who are very dissociated. Our goal is to help them re-associate to their feelings safely.
Linking/Dumping is a great technique for addressing addictions. When a client wants to give up an addiction, the first thing that we need to do is take the love out of it. We dump all the negativity, pain, hurt, nastiness, death, suffering, stink, mess, etc., onto the perceived good part of the addiction.
It is essentially putting the bad feelings in the places that should be bad by creating conscious or unconscious repulsion.
For example, you say, “What is something you find disgusting?” Use your sensory acuity to evaluate their response. Be sure it is truly disgusting to them. Next, direct them to imagine putting that thing in their mouth, again evaluating their response. Once they are clearly repulsed, use their answer to ‘link/dump’ on the addiction (if it’s consumption based). The intonation of the voice that you use with it is also important. The more repulsed they are, the more abiding the results. If you can get them to gagging, GREAT!
It's also important to take the good feeling (that they get with using drugs for example) and move it to a beneficial action that they would prefer to do. In this way, linking/dumping can be used to build positive behaviors.
Fake laughter is a great defractionation tool. And it often leads to real laughter. It’s fun and it’s simple:
- Identify a problem.
- Notice where it is and how strong it is.
- Amp it up.
- Fake laugh at the problem from the stomach out loud, for 8, 10, 12 seconds.
- Go back, notice what is left and repeat until it’s gone.
A great way to elicit a belief/belief system is to have your client finish the sentence. It allows the metaphoric mind to fill in the blank, held at the deep unconscious level. You then tap out whatever shows up. You can use this technique in one of two ways.
- Using one of their main beliefs (i.e., “I’m stupid”), ask your client to finish the sentence “I am stupid because….” Ask this at least three times, directing them to answer with the very first thing that comes to mind. The more times you ask, the deeper you get into the unconscious mind. If they are thinking too much, you can say, “Come on, faster. Don't think about it, just tell me the first thing that came to your mind.” Write down the words. They are part of The A.R.T. of Change®.
- Using one of their strong desired outcomes (i.e., “Loving”), ask your client to finish the sentence with the opposite of that, “I am unloving because.” Again, ask at least three times, directing them to answer with the very first thing that comes to mind. Write down the words. They are part of The A.R.T. of Change®.
- Tap these negative beliefs down, then tap up the positive to 100% using Tap it Down, Tap it Up.
When dealing with emotions, feelings, or pain and we don't know what they are, we can say, “Give this pain a voice. What would it say/tell you? Just make it up. If this pain was a voice, what would it be?”
This will allow the metaphoric mind to give you aspects to tap on, it is direct unconscious communication and it will give you the information.
This process is good for clients who don't want to talk about their problem, but would like to let it go. It is like No Content in that they are not telling you details. But in this technique, you are directing them to tell you the story silently, in their mind only. Ask them to pretend they are telling you.
- “Start at the beginning, before it ever happened, and tell me in your mind what happened. Nod your head the moment something bothers you.”
- Tap a round, saying simply, “I release and let it go. Let it go.”
- Go back and check it again, “Continue telling me in your mind, until you hit the point that bothers you.”
- Continue tapping rounds, until it's positive
- Once it is positive, say, “It's safe now for you to tell me. Is there any resistance?” They still don't have to tell you, but you're cleaning up whatever is still there. Resistance may indicate more is there. And they are always entitled to their privacy. Respect their answer.
When clients have gaps in their memories you can have them make up a story about what happened. Often, they make up the real event! Allowing it to be made up gives them the permission to deal with it.
- Direct them write the story in an email, on a chalkboard, or a piece of paper then read it aloud.
- Draw on a piece of paper. Tap on every aspect inside the picture being drawn.
- Lie about it: “If you were to make it up, lie about the story, what would have happened?” This will usually be true, or have elements of truth.
When we say, “make it up” the unconscious mind will use the information that it already holds. Remember, everything inside of you is you! It's the metaphoric mind.
P.P.P. is one of the ways to amplify: when you’re aiming at the problem, the stronger you make it, the faster it goes away when you tap. The rule with P.P.P., is that when you poke, they need to tap. This promotes healing.
Saying it back to them in their native tongue can make an even bigger impact.
You can say to your clients, “You got what you deserved, it’s all your fault, you liked it…” or use the following processes to get strong resistance from them, and then tap on the resistance until they no longer feel it to be true.
- They are/I am – “My husband is an idiot.” We say: “My husband is an idiot and so am I.”
- You love what you hate – “I hate my pain”. We reply: “You love it, don’t you? Yes you do. Say: I love it. You love it so much you think about it all the time, don't you!”
- You are just like them. “You are just like your mother. You are twins! I thought I was talking to her!”
- “They are here right now, and will sit right next to you (hit them on the leg to put them in trance). All those people who made fun of you will sit in front of you and laugh at you.”
- Devil’s advocate – We're looking for the worst possible emotional scenario. Give it to them and then tap it away.
- Act or play out what they don’t want (whatever their fear is). E.g. “No one listens to me.” We say: “I'm sorry, did you say something?” You can physically role play whatever would trigger them.
- Say what they would say to themselves. Listen to what they say, listen to the words and give them back to them.
- Say what they project on others and what they are saying about them.
- Say what was said to them – by parents or friends or anyone.
- State the most obvious truth but in an extreme way. They would say, “I messed in my pants.” You would say, “You shit on yourself.”
- Laugh or make fun of them – whatever they say, laughing loudly at them, then tap.
- Being super kind, loving and sweet – playing tuff they can handle but someone who is kind and loving will break the wall down so you can heal the hurts.
- Give the problem to someone they love – give it to their child, dog cat, mother or friend. It usually works great when they are not wanting to associate to their issue so giving it to someone they care about then it brings up the big emotions.
P.P.P. can be extremely effective and plays a significant role when working with our clients. However, to ensure that it is used appropriately, the following guidelines can and should be reviewed and followed regularly.
As we all know, when dealing with people and their emotions, there are many dynamics, and very seldom is there a single answer to any one question or concern. Thus, the practitioner is encouraged to use common sense in all situations while holding their client’s best interest in mind as the number one priority.
- The purpose of P.P.P. is to help the client associate and to amplify the emotions associated to their P.I.P.S. As Robert says, “The more you can feel it, the more you can change it”, and in many cases, it can be beneficial to help them amp it up. However, the practitioner is encouraged to start easy, while using sensory acuity to test and determine the clients’ emotional reaction. For example, some clients have severe reactions when told to, “just go there”, while others may need more prodding. The degree to which you apply P.P.P. should be determined by your client’s reaction.
- As a practitioner, be aware of your own triggers. We are all on our own healing journey and so practitioners need to be aware of their own emotions during a session, such as anger, excitement, or arousal. A seasoned practitioner will notice the trigger and take the time to tap on themselves, even if it means a pause in the session.
- The desired result is a reframe/re-write/flip. When applying P.P.P., the practitioner’s objective is to help their client amplify their problem, de-fractionate, and re-frame, flip or re-write it. Any P.P.P. should be immediately followed by, “let it go, it’s safe to let it go, that’s right, let it all go”, etc.
- Prepare a pre-talk script. Let your client know what to expect during a session, including P.P.P. Full transparency with your client is a must. It can also help build rapport. Remember, your goal is to help empower your clients. Sharing with them what you will be doing in session and why will educate them on how they can begin to take control of their own emotional reactions and behaviors.
- Ask for permission. A good practice is to show them how you will be tapping on them (or calling out points over Skype) and informing them of any other techniques such as heavy/light touch, gentle massage, eye movements, light shoving, etc. that you may use. Ask if you can demonstrate each and any technique you may use and get their permission to do so first. Getting permission should precede any behavior outside of what you demonstrate in the pre-talk. This would include any other types of physicality, reenactments, exaggerated invasion of personal space, or verbal P.P.P.
- Use their words. The practitioner should take the position that,“I am only saying to you (client) what you’ve been saying to yourself.” A good practitioner will take notes on the language the client uses to feed it back to them. Even when giving it back with dynamite, the client’s language should be duplicated, just in a more exaggerated fashion. Using other derogatory, demeaning language or over the top curse words is not recommended.
- Follow the Deca-Trauma Process (DTP) A practitioner should always attempt to “clean up” with the Deca-Trauma Process. Then gradually move to more physical or verbal intensities as deemed necessary to “test” for any other triggers. The goal and reason for using P.P.P. is to be as thorough as possible in cleaning up the emotional reactions and flipping the memories.
- Be flexible. Some clients are seemingly unfazed by any amount of P.P.P.. There are times when another approach may be more effective, such as soft, gentle, loving language.
- Use when appropriate only. Use during sessions, after seeking permission from the client. This technique should not be used randomly without permission. If used outside of a session the practitioner would need to have a familiar relationship with the person and tap straight away afterwards. P.P.P. should not be used with: a.) Family and friends b.) Severely traumatized clients/persons
- Tell clients more than once when you wish to use the technique. We use their words, proofs and references, which allows the subconscious to do the deep work.
Photo tapping is the process of using a photograph (or album) to elicit memories and emotions. This technique can be used in two ways:
- Use a photo, or an album to elicit memories, triggers, or emotional states. Tap on what comes up.
- Use the people in the photos as surrogates. Have them pretend to be that person, feel their pain, experience their problem, and tap.
- Take the bad memory and put it to one side (point with finger where)
- Take the good memory and put it to the other side (again point with finger)
- Look at the bad memory. Look at the good memory.
- Look at the bad memory and move it in front of the good one and have the good memory come through and replace/dissolve/dissipate the bad memory.
- See the bad memory. Light a match under that picture. Watchit burn and notice the happy picture behind where the bad one was. Step into the good one and feel it.
- Burn the picture, take a deep breath and blow the ashes away. Notice the happy memory is there now. Step into it and feel it.
- Use the knob to adjust it to black and white. You can change it to look like an old picture. It no longer has power.
- Adjust the knob to one solid color that makes you feel good. Step into that picture and see how all the color wraps around you. Feel that color, how comforting that is, and breathe in that color. And think about something good.
- Change the picture to white. Shrink it way down to a small star. Move it up and out into the sky, until it is lost amongst the stars.
- Now it is above you and shining light, healing you. Allow it to heal the memory.
- Bring the star down, step into it and feel the brightness of the moment.
Push It Away
- When a memory is visually close, direct your client to push it away.
- The further it goes, the smaller the picture gets, and the less emotion will be there.
Find a word that you want to use instead of tapping:
- Have them identify the word, associate to it, feel it and say it.
- Ask them: “Do you have a really wonderful, powerful experience? Something that just makes you feel good?”
- “Take a deep breath in, close your eyes and go back to that experience. There you are, feel that feeling.” You can amplify the feeling by spinning it. “Just feel that feeling and give it a word.” (e.g.Showtime)
- Take them out of that feeling, re-focus.
- “Now open your eyes and think about something else.” (Divert their attention by talking about something else.)
- Go back to it, to wherever they get that word, say it inside or out loud.
- “Go back to that memory, there you are in your body, feel it, see it, hear it, notice that feeling in your body…Showtime!” You do this a few times.
- Then do normal tapping – find the problem, notice it, see it, feel it, notice the spot, location, however you do it, take a deep breath– and say the word.
- You can also anchor the power word by grabbing the wrist, but just using the word by itself will work.
- “Go back to the problem, whatever it is, see it, feel it, notice the location and…Showtime!”
If you notice that you keep repeating the same patterns or behaviors and want to stop them, you can say “Stop that shit!” or “Quit!” (shout it in your mind) to yourself in the middle of doing it, at the height of the feeling. You can do it with any word but it must be an impactful, powerful, meaningful word. It is also useful for people who play movies inside their minds.
When you catch yourself saying negative things to yourself, you can interrupt the pattern by telling your mind to “Shut the fuck up!” It works better if it’s forceful rather than polite. By doing this, you're taking control of your unconscious mind.
In eutaptics® terms, addiction is a persistent, uncontrollable coping skill used to avoid problems or undesirable states of mind. For an addict, the drive to avoid and escape overrides reason and logic, to the detriment of self (and often others).
An addict will use anything to feel better, whether it be drugs or alcohol, sex, gambling, social media, reading, shopping, cleaning, etc. We can even become addicted to our emotions – negative or positive.
To a greater or lesser extent, everybody is an “avoidaholic”, addicts are just more practiced at avoiding and escaping. In all cases, addiction is a mental and emotional process, a learned coping mechanism. However, it can lead to physical addiction (as in the case of drugs). In either case, eutaptics® asserts that addiction IS changeable.
Addiction is driven by a feel good and the deprivation of not having the thing used to feel good. The feel good is the fix, but the true driver is the deprivation.
Addiction has two key elements:
- The “magical” fix, the feel good, the hope of it, the imagination of it (glamorizing the relief), trying to relive the good feeling (e.g. a gambler wants to feel the good feeling of winning while they're not winning).
- The powerful desire to have the fix when not in the feel good state. The feeling of not having keeps the addiction going. “I'm empty and I need my fix.” It is what you've always been looking for and the more you try to find it, the harder you look. An addict will endure the pain, the beating, the rejection – at some conscious or unconscious level – because they know there is going to be that fix on the other end.
Always look for:
- Pivotal memory
- Driving force
- Belief system
Things that don’t go together but “drive the bus” (i.e., what did they connect and what decision did they make?)
- Elicit the strategy – understand how they create their problem,use A.R.T. of Change® Questions to get their beliefs, attitudes and what they don’t want.
- Address the addiction – get rid of the positive associations to the substance/behavior and create repulsion to it. Destroy the love for the substance/behavior by destroying as many references to re- creating the feel good.
- Address the emotional drivers – traumas, abuses, memories, experiences, feelings, emotional connections, and dynamics.
- Destroy bad anchors (the association to the substance) and create new good ones (what they want).
- Future Pace – help them create a vision for their life they WANT to live into. Make it real in their mind.
- Integration – healing all the other important people inside.
- Teaching them how to tap (and other new skills).
Grief and loss are two of the strongest emotional drivers in modern society. Many cultures hold the belief that when someone dies, you must grieve for the rest of your life (or a very long time, at the very least) to “honor” that person’s memory. If you think of them and smile or laugh, you are somehow dishonoring their memory. They’re gone, after all. You should be sad.
However, to honor someone is to cherish the LIFE they lived, not feel sad about their death. Every single living being on this planet dies. It is a natural process of living. Not one single person gets to the end of their life and lives. And not many people would WANT us to be sad at their passing.
This does not mean don’t feel sad. Sadness and grief are natural emotions. There is nothing inherently wrong with them. But when they drive your life, they become a problem. Work on your own grief and loss belief system, create a healthy attitude toward it, and you will be better able to help your clients
When we're working with our clients, we deal with grief and loss in every session, it's always there. There are so many pieces that people don't realize are grief and loss, ranging from the end of a relationship, a loss of childhood, ideas, dreams, children growing up and leaving home, graduating from high school, moving from one house to another, losing a job, etc. It is everywhere. Also, people feel some things they never had as loss, (e.g., ”I never had a good mom…”)
- EVERY PERSON, EVERY RELATIONSHIP, EVERY EXPERIENCE WILL BRING YOU GIFTS (good ones – good experiences, memories, and bad ones – pain and hurt). It is up to you which one you're going to open and which you're choosing to keep.
- EVERYBODY WILL DIE – death is a natural process. Make peace with it.
- LIFE IS ALWAYS CHANGING, beyond our control, ADJUST QUICKLY and KEEP THE GOOD PARTS.
- GRIEVING HURTS THOSE WHO GRIEVE. It is a self-torturing process and a skill.
- GRIEF DOESN'T UNDO ANYTHING. It doesn't fix, change, or solve anything, it only makes you feel terrible.
- THOSE WHO HAVE DIED ARE OKAY NOW – the pain has ended. It’s the living that have a problem with the death.
- GRIEVING IS A DISHONORABLE ACT TO THOSE WHO DIED. GRIEVE ONLY AS LONG AS YOU WANT TO FEEL BAD.
- CONNECTION – That's why people hold on to grief and loss. They think that's all they have left now – the last major imprint.
When working with clients, the goal is to rewrite their bad memories so that when they think about the person (or thing) they lost, remember the good instead of the bad. Ask, “How do you know it's sad?” and find the program they use to “entertain” themselves.
You're looking for:
- MEMORIES AND REFERENCES (PROOFS)
- CULTURAL CONDITIONING (e.g., some cultures find not grieving disrespectful)
- TRIGGERS AND PLACES where they are normally sad (e.g. walking past the mantel, seeing the photo, hearing the song)
- PHOTO ALBUM (it's a great way of triggering memories), also e-mails, clothes, etc.
- ANGER, RESENTMENT, BLAME (God, themselves, doctors, etc.)
- GUILT – the “I should have’s” and “If only’s”
- RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS – either vilifying or sainting the deceased.
- Emotional pain can block out good memories and the last week of the person’s life can become a negative primary imprint. Take them there. Walk them through everything that helped create the grief. Elicit all the memories of death and/or loss and aspects of their belief system around death and loss.
- Change everything and keep tapping until they're smiling and they're left with the happy memory, with how they would want it to happen.
- Go to the good memories and integrate with that and the one who passed.
- Remind them the person is alive within them. Do the integration work with person inside of them.
Whatever you think, your body follows. The mind is the body, the body is the mind. And expression of the body is emotion made real in the body. If pain was physical or strictly mechanical, emotions and thoughts would not affect it.
There is positive intention behind pain - inside of the pain there is a fix, a satisfying part about it. It does something for the individual, (e.g., it could be a feeling of being safe). There is also an escape – they're using the pain to escape something. In pain cases, you often see what is referred to as secondary gain: your client may be getting disability because of their pain, but if they let go of the pain, what will happen? They may have to get a job and that is too overwhelming, so they hold onto the pain.]
For example, those with Fibromyalgia have a great ability to store their pain (emotions) in their bodies. They often have a lot of unresolved emotional experiences and feel pain more often and for longer periods of time, developing chronic pain. But they don't have fibromyalgia, they produce it!
Remember, stating you ”have” any disease is claiming ownership of it and you will be more resistant to letting it go if you’ve created an identity around it.
Because pain is often emotionally perpetuated, we need to address the emotional aspects of the pain. Cleaning up originating pain events (such as car accidents) is key, along with addressing family dynamics, which can often be a foundation for conditions such as Fibromyalgia. We must also address everyday life events (such as work, school, etc.) which may be creating more stress, which exacerbates pain.
By understanding how the mind works, we work to create healing in the mind-body connection. By changing beliefs, proofs, connections, and resources, everything changes.
- BELIEFS: What do you believe about this pain?
- LOCATION: Where in the body do you feel it?
- TIMES AND PLACES: When do you normally have this pain? Also, certain times and spaces that the pain will intensify and be stronger (e.g., Your mother/husband is coming and all of the sudden you're sick.)
- ONSET: Have you ever had this pain before? When did it all begin? What was going on in your life at the time?
- PATTERNS: automatic unconscious patterns, “anniversary dates”, seasonal affective disorder
- THE PAIN CULTURE: Who else has this pain? (“family reunions”)
- PERSON: If this pain was a person, who would it represent? Who is it really? Often, pain is a way to relate to and connect with others who have the same issue. They love them so much that the pain becomes a representation of being close to their loved ones.
- PAY OFF: What good things do they get because of pain? Disability, attention, sex avoidance, etc.
- PROCESSING: What are the sub-modalities of the pain: (e.g. “I feel it here, it's a pressure here, it moves over here, it vibrates,etc.”).
- EMOTIONAL FIX: Inside of the pain there is a fix, a satisfying part, it does something for you, there's a reward. What is it? Love equals pain, there's an emotion to it, something that you've enjoyed
- ESCAPE: “I don't want to deal with my emotions. I'd rather feelthe physical pain than deal with the emotional pain.” The key question is: What are you trying to escape from?
Weight issues always have strong emotional drivers. Here are six drivers weight issues:
- Unmanaged stress and unresolved negative emotions
- Automatic unconscious eating programs from childhood (clean your plate, be a good girl/boy, kids in China are starving, it's 12 o'clock - time to eat!). These emotional programs drive you to eat when you're not hungry.
- Self-image, how you see yourself (e.g. “I don't want to look like my mother; it's safer to be fat; if I look good, men will chase me; my friends/family won't like me anymore because they’ll think I'm better than they are, I hate my body,etc.”)
- Dieting – Giving power to the food and using willpower to control it
- Unhealthy food choices – fast food, soda,etc.
- Emotional escape – “Food is the only thing I enjoy in my life.”
Because there are so many subtle unconscious eating programs we operate from, start looking at your life and find where is it that you're eating when you're not hungry. That is the primary program for being overweight. The goal is to change our response to food, not control it.
Start tapping before you eat. Notice what your body feels. Ask yourself, “Is this food nourishing to my body?” If it is, enjoy it, eat slowly, taste it, feel it, experience it. And when your hunger is satisfied you, stop eating.
We must also be at peace with throwing food away once we're full (tap out the emotions, guilt etc.).
- Address the emotional, familial, and cultural connections
- Release and let go of the pleasure, sensations, smell, and aroma
- Do the taste test and let go of any remaining positive tastes
- Check for feelings of deprivation and release those
- Future pace your healthy relationship with food and your body
Don’t Be a Mind Reader…because you’re not telepathic and they have enough problems!
“Mind reading” is the act of making assumptions and assigning meaning about the thoughts, feelings, behavior, or intentions of other people without asking the appropriate questions to get accurate information. It is based on your own perceptions and belief systems.
When you do this, you are unable to hear what someone is really telling you and it builds a foundation for misunderstandings and misinterpretations. The mind reader usually believes his/her perceptions are accurate without realizing they are projecting.
Safe Approach to Big Issues (SABI) is a process used when you have a P.I.P.S. that feels overwhelming, especially fears and phobias. It is a way to work on an issue from a detached point of view, and slowly associate to it as you clear the negative reactions.
1) Clean the mind, working on how they internalize the memories, and tap using the six basic ways of re-imprinting.
a) This means tap until the SUDS is down to zero and memories are easier to manage.
2) Slowly introduce the idea that the “problem” is about to happen physically, in reality. Tell them to make it up as if it were happening now.
a) Tap and clean up anything that arises
3) Tell them to Pretend as if the problem is now in their physical reality
a) Remind them they are still doing it all in their mind
b) Tap and clean up anything that arises
4) Tell them to address the physical manifestation of the problem from a distance
a) Tap and clean up anything that arises
5) Show them a physical manifestation of the “problem”
a) Be sure to keep this physical something far away
b) Tap and clean up anything that arises
c) Use this procedure if applicable (i.e., a rubber spider)
6) Bring physical manifestation of the problem close to them
a) Keep tapping until they can bring the physical object close, and can hold it/touch it/face it/etc.
b) Some examples include a spider or snake in a box, or an ex-partner walking into the room.
Competency Achieved = Meets the standards taught currently by Robert Gene Smith with eutaptics®/FasterEFT™.
Competency Not Yet Achieved = Currently does not meet the standard as taught by Robert Gene Smith with eutaptics®/FasterEFT™.